Ideas to help you feel good. Its important to find your inner calm and achieve a healthy state of mind when life gets a bit stressful. List your accomplishments Go on, write them down. Everything from winning the spelling bee to completing a project on time. Start from the beginning of your life to yesterday. Write down anything that you feel proud about. As you fill the page relive the memories. Feel your heart swell and puff your chest out proud. Look at you! De-Clutter Clutter free space – clutter free mind. Having a clean clutter-free household leads to a fresh calm inspiring environment. It clears the house and your brain. Utilize everyone in the house to empty out the cupboards (even that kitchen drawer we all have..) organize the corners and remove all the unnecessary items. Donate, sell, gift and bin all that is messy. When you’re all done sit back and enjoy your new spaces.
Change one thing If there’s something really bothering you about yourself, then pick one small action to change it and do that now. Go ahead. Just a little thing. Relive your best memory Pull up a wonderful, happy memory and take a few minutes to dwell on it. Go through all of the details and feel the feelings you had then. Go through your senses as you go back to that moment in time. How did it smell, the feel of it beneath your fingers, the sounds that ring in your ears. Good memories – good times. Now there’s a little boost for you. Let someone else decide Relinquish responsibility to someone else every now and then. They can be right or in the spotlight, and you can let them. That’s OK. We can put so much pressure on ourselves to perform and be that driving influence. Sit back, take a deep breath and enjoy the ride as someone else drives the life bus for a little while.
Pretend Don’t feel great about yourself? Pretend that you do. Act like you do. Pretty soon you really will. You might feel silly doing it, but sometime when you're feeling bummed and want to get in a better mood, try laughing spontaneously. It may start out as a fake laugh, but it won't stay that way for long. Laughter is contagious, too. It's very hard to hold back your own laughter when watching someone else so obviously enjoying themselves. Just pretending to be upbeat – say, by telling a joke – can send levels of 'happiness' hormones surging in 40% of people, studies show. Make the appointment If you need to go to the doctor, the therapist, a coach, a lawyer, an accountant, whatever — stop stalling and make the appointment. Today. Use a planner to schedule your time. Being organized will not only remove the feelings of guilt and angst but you will gain the benefit of having that necessary appointment after all. Keep a Journal A Journal is a place for you to write down all your thoughts feelings and dreams. Use it as a way to let go of emotions and move on. Writing your thoughts down can even be as therapeutic as talking to someone. A journal can give simplicity and clarity to your thoughts as you transpose them into written words. Write it out and read back over your entry – your feelings will be in a more positive place.
Create a sacred space Create a special place in your home for meditation, journaling, reading, and relaxation. A place where you can unwind and be comfortable. This could be a special reading nook, a day bed on the verandah, a big chair in the office. Set a goal Have a think for a while on what you really, really want in life. Then set about getting a single, focused goal down in writing, to put the achievement of what you want, in motion. Set the exact hour and day at which you will strive to achieve it, and commit to getting there. Aim high, but make the goal something you could achieve with a push. Having more than one goal is fine, but make sure you have a single, highly motivating goal at the forefront, with a timescale of a year or two in which to reach it. Having something exciting to aim for like this is a splendid way of getting moving. Resume a Goal

I’m sure that if you think about it, you have at least one goal where progress has stalled. Here’s a simple way to feel a little happier: restart your progress towards that goal!

It doesn’t take much. Just take the first step. It can be intimidating to look at a goal and plan the entire process to completion. But you don’t have to do that. Whatever your goal is, you just need to do the next small task that will bring you closer to success. Having meaningful goals is one of the greatest ways to become happier in the long term, but you can feel great right now by simply taking the first step.

Commit to change Making conscious decisions to change yourself and your circumstances for the better puts you behind the steering wheel. Deciding to commit to something and take responsibility will remind yourself why you’re alive. When your body and mind can sense responsibility is being taken, you will shift into a state of feeling alive, and you will feel better. SWITCH OFF Sick of the constant beeps that summon your attention? Each one causes a short adrenalin rush (the “fight or flight” response). If this is happening all the time, it makes the body less able to cope with stress. Turn the phone, notepad and computer off if you can… the world can wait. Now focus your full attention to the people close to you, your environment and of course… yourself! BE BESIDE THE SEASIDE Whether you are beachcombing, taking the dog for a walk or braving the waters, you’ll feel better for a day on the coast. Feel your energy levels soar as you breathe in the salty sea air. The negative hydrogen ions in the sea spray are thought to affect levels of serotonin – the feel-good hormone – making us feel less anxious and improving our quality of sleep.

Blood is vital to life and for many people blood donors are their lifeline. Currently only 1in 30 people give blood, but 1in 3 people will need blood in their lifetime. Modern processing techniques mean that a single blood donation, when separated into its components, can help at least 3 different patients and contribute to making up to 22 different products (including potentially life-saving immunizations for chicken pox, hepatitis B and tetanus).

If you’re healthy and aged 17 to 65yrs, you never know, you might be the one to save a life this year. Contact the Australian Red Cross Blood Service at or call 131 495 to make your appointment

CREATE A MOOD BOARD Turn every day into a visual diary, collating images that make you feel good. It’s an uplifting (and unpressured) way to plan, and get creative juices going. Use a corkboard or an art book to collate your feel good content. Place in a location where you can view easily to give you a quick happy hit as your walking past. LIVE DANGEROUSLY Always talked about skydiving? Do it. Flying lesson? Go for it. It may seem a bit indulgent, but it will give you something exhilarating to think and talk about.
CHANGE COLOUR For a quick interiors feel-good fix, introduce a new colour in a room that you use every day. We all know that blue is supposed to make us feel calm and restful (good for bedrooms), and red gets the blood pumping when you need to be energized. However, this year’s choice has to be yellow: apparently it inspires optimistic feelings because it encourages the brain to release more of the feel-good chemical, serotonin. Eat something sinful. This is a tricky one. When on a diet, this could boomerang very badly. So make sure you don’t overdo it. Get that pastry, cookie or whatever it is that you’ve been avoiding. Look at it for a full minute. Yes, one full minute. Close your eyes and take in the smell. Feel the aroma. Now, take a bite. Feel your teeth sink in, let your tongue roll, let the flavors dance a merry salsa in your mouth. And then swallow. Rinse, repeat. The joy of eating can fix anything. Trust me! SURROUND YOURSELF WITH FLOWERS Brush up on your flower-arranging skills because there's a very compelling reason to have beautiful blooms around at all times: In a study by Nancy Etcoff of Harvard Medical School, 27 women were sent colourful stems; another group received home décor items. Within a week, Etcoff found that the flower group reported feeling more enthusiastic about their daily activities.
PREPARE YOUR BREAKFAST – THE NIGHT BEFORE When you know exactly what you are going to eat, you are less likely to skip a meal—or make a bad decision. (And, no, a cup of coffee won't cut it.) Start your day with protein-packed hard-boiled eggs or a yogurt parfait with fresh fruit and sesame seeds, which are loaded with iron and calcium. Such a feel good start to the day!! TALK TO STRANGERS Say something nice to a complete stranger. Tell the woman on the train that you like her shoes. The compliment will make her smile. She's happy, you're happy and it creates a mini endorphin explosion just for you. There are so many opportunities to do this every day. Give it a try but remember to always be genuine. FLOW Do you ever find yourself so completely immersed in what you’re doing that you lose track of time? All of a sudden you look up at the clock and realize that hours have passed and you missed dinner time? Think a minute about this. When does this loss of time and total engagement typically occur for you? If we are deeply involved in trying to reach a goal, or an activity that is challenging but well suited to our skills, we experience a joyful state called “flow.” One may find still greater happiness experiencing “flow” in working towards long-term, meaningful goals.
Spend your money on somebody

MRI studies show that when we do an act of kindness for someone else, we're actually getting something in return -- pleasure. The brain's reward center, the region that's activated when something good happens to us, also comes to life when we do something nice for someone else.

This means chemicals that produce happy feelings -- like dopamine -- flood our brains when we cover the lunch tab or pick up an extra burger for a homeless guy when we're out at lunch. It's your money; buy some happiness with it.

Learn Something New

One of the greatest pleasures you can experience is to learn something new.

You probably have many interests that you would like to pursue, but haven’t. I really want to learn how to produce better photos, learn several languages, become a better writer, and a million other things. When you have a half hour of free time, try to learn something that you want to learn. Just take the first step. It is very rewarding.

Break a Bad Habit

Too much caffeine, alcohol, cigarettes, laziness, or procrastination? We all have some sort of vice. Pick your poison. You probably know already that you should moderate yourself for the sake of your health.

But did you know that the process of breaking a bad habit can make you happier? In other words, you don’t need to succeed in breaking the habit before you feel better about yourself. Simply the act of trying will improve your mood!

If you’ve wanted to break your bad habit for a while, start right now. All you need to do is take the first step. Resist the cigarette craving just this one time, or get off the couch and go to the gym just this one time. Not only will you be happier, but you will make actual progress towards improving your health or becoming more productive. Great deal!

Smell Your Way to a Better Mood

One trick to brighten your mood is your own sense of smell. It has long been discovered that smells and emotions are connected. In fact, just a few whiffs of nostalgic scents can stir up happy memories that alter brain waves for the better.

The reason smells affect people's moods is due to the memory connected to the smell. One person's mood might be boosted from smelling a particular flower because it reminds them of a happy time when that flower was blooming. If you ever want to lift your spirits, try sniffing something that takes you back to happier days.

When To Seek Professional Help When to seek professional help - If you have made efforts to improve your mental and emotional health and you still don’t feel good – then it’s time to seek professional help. Input from a knowledgeable, caring professional can motivate us to do things for ourselves that we were not able to do on our own. Red flag feelings and behaviours that may require immediate attention include:
  • Inability to sleep
  • Feeling down, hopeless, or helpless most of the time
  • Concentration problems that are interfering with your work or home life
  • Using nicotine, food, drugs, or alcohol to cope with difficult emotions
  • Negative or self-destructive thoughts or fears that you can’t control
  • Thoughts of death or suicide
If you identify with any of these red flag symptoms, strongly consider making an appointment with a mental health professional.
  Sometimes it is easier to shut down than to talk to others about your problems. However, talking things out can help you feel better and often leads to a resolution of problems causing your mental distress. Talk to someone you can trust. You are wise not to tell your troubles to just anyone, but find a trusted friend, counsellor, or professional. Someone who will add some objectivity, with empathy, to your thoughts. It's difficult to know when your thoughts are off-track if you do not discuss them with someone. Our thought patterns become so familiar to us they seem right, but that doesn't mean that they are. Talking to someone who is fair-minded and balanced will allow you to get things off your chest, give you a shoulder to cry on or a kick in the pants if that is what you need.